4 Dates 4 Guys

I normally have a simple approach to dating. Chat on line for a few days, week, trade phone numbers, text and then arrange a date.

Usually I do this one victim, sorry man, at a time. I do tend to chat to a few at once, but then when I meet one I like I then politely tell the other guys that I have met someone and think its only fair to just talk to them. The way I see it is that if they were that lucky guy they would be pleased to know he has my complete attention.
I decided a short while ago that maybe I was being too selective in this process and loosing out on the other interested parties. So I bravely decided to juggle 4 dates with 4 guys in 4 days.

Sounds easy- well not when you factor in the following:
1.Bonnie has a Goldfish brain-which could make for a few wrong names called, or details assigned to the wrong guy!
2. Two dates on one day.
3. Outfit changes and locations.

So first date, lets call him Mr A. We arrange to meet at a mutual convenient pub for a few drinks. I had already said I didn't want to eat as I always find this a nerve racking experience in front of a stranger. Plus if said stranger isn't what you expect you have to sit opposite them for longer than necessary  But at the last minute he asked if we could eat, and he offered to pay (with the added comment "Your turn to pay next time" which lost him a few brownie points).  The evening as a whole went smoothly, he turned up on time, dressed appropriately, was not rude, or too over bearing, but I left thinking there was something lacking between us. Maybe it was my fault, I don't always take a shine to men who are follically challenged- reminds me too much of my ex husband. I left myself to mull it over for a day or so.

Date 2- lets call him Mr B. Saturday evening drinks in a local pub. Date arranged and luckily he arrived early and realised the pub he meant wasn't the one he had said! So he informed me of his error and then waited for me at the bar. I was pleasantly surprised by what I saw and our evening went very well. We seemed to click and had a fair few things in common.Mr B was attentive, and I went home with the memory of a very enjoyable evening in my head.Considering it was his first date in a long time I thought he coped very well.

Date 3- Mr C. This date was organised for a Sunday lunchtime. Mr C lived nearer to me than Mr A or the future Mr D (who I was to meet later that evening). I arrived at the pub, spotted his work van and waited for him to get out. He produced a bunch of flowers for me (bonus points) but alas it seemed apparent that his photo on his profile was probably from about 5 or more Years previous, when he was a few stone lighter. Now I'm not one to judge on weight, so I continued to try and enjoy his company, but I found him very difficult to talk to and just couldn't connect with him. So after a couple of drinks we parted company. Unfortunately he was under the impression I liked him more than I did and I had to let him down about the possibility of meeting up again.

Date 4- Mr D. A Sunday evening drink in yet another pub. (Thank god I know a few pubs !). Arrived early and the pub car park was empty.Not a good sign. He arrived and unfolded himself from his car (tall tall for me !) and we went into the Pub. At the bar we were informed the pub closes at 9pm (It was 7.30) and to be honest I was releaved. We struggled to make conversation for an hour and nursed one drink. We then said our goodbyes and parted company.

So all the stresses of texting 4 Guys at the same time boiled down to just one good potential second date ! But it made for a fun few days of finding new locations for drinks and outfits to wear. If I had done those dates the normal way of one at a time I would have wasted a month meeting each one. So I suppose multi first dating has its bonuses !

Now where is my Mr B for our second date !

A one way meeting

A short story.......
So I had been communicating with a gentleman for a few days when I mentioned I was going to see a local band. He said he had seen them before and had noticed they were playing and thought he might go along too with his mates. So it seemed like a good opportunity to say Hi without it actually being a first date. Perfect. Easy. Simple. As he admitted he was quite shy I thought this random hello meeting would be a good way to break the ice.
So the night arrived, and I made a good effort to like good. Once inside the bar I became a bit nervous and made sure I had my back to the door so I wasn't watching EVERY man who walked in. It was tough though and I started to think it was a bad idea! I had seen a couple of pictures of him but in each one he looked completely different. So every guy who walked past was potentially him! I had arrived major early to have a gossip with my friends and so text him to find out what time he was planning on being there. He said around 10, so I settled into enjoying the band and a good night out.

Finally around 10.45 I received a text from him saying "Wow very sexy,nice legs". See, I had been thoughtful and sent him a picture of what I was wearing so he could spot me. I smiled and tried not to look around too much and just replied with "Thank you. So where are you?" His response "Not far from you. I'm shy and you are way out of my league"
On principle I was determined not to turn round and look too hard for him. I was slightly miffed that he didn't have the balls so to speak to stick his neck out and just say Hi. I was even more put out by the fact that from that moment on I knew he was watching me and I didn't know where he was. It was a bit off putting! I text him as we were about to leave and said "I'm off now and I cant believe you didn't say Hi." I must have walked passed him on my way out but I stuck to my guns and didn't look for him.

Talk about a wasted opportunity! It was like a one sided date! He could see me but I was blind to him ! Believe me I wont be suggesting that idea again!