Reasons

The saying goes

"Some People come into your life for a reason."

I have recently noticed I can work out how and why I have entered other peoples lives, but I'm buggered if I can see why so many idiots, sorry, men have come into my life and what lessons I need to learn from them.
On more than one occasion, I have helped a young man find himself again, or get over a bad break up, or made them smile, or shown them what life is all about. But what exactly have these guys given me in return apart from heartache and a bewildering view on the male race!
The new let down statement seems to be "Bonnie you are too good for me. You deserve better"
Now surely that's my decision to make? If I deem you not worthy then so be it. But that's not your decision to make, and it certainly seems a bigger cop out to the old faithful "Its not you, its me".
Dam right its not me! I am loving and giving, funny but slightly mad, and a joy to be around- most of the time.
I keep having to tell myself it isn't anything I have done that sends these guys off back to their ex wives/girlfriends. Its just that they don't have a big enough pair of balls to move on with their lives and do something different. Jump into the unknown future, enjoy life with someone new. No, these boys (they aren't men) would prefer a comfy pair of slippers, the woman who they moan about or are bored with etc rather than a new exciting challenge. They would rather an easy life with someone who they can walk over, as these women are desperate to have them back as opposed to be lonely.

I do deserve better. I deserve a man who will stand up to me when I'm being ratty, and for me when I need defending. I need a man who will go that extra mile and not sit back and expect life to fall in his lap along with his dinner. What I need is an equal.
While I'm searching for him I will make sure I don't get fooled again. I wont put up barriers, that's not me, I wear my heart on my sleeve as you never know my match may be round the next corner. After two years of dating I am happy with my own company, I'm not desperate for just any Tom Dick or Harry. Believe me I seem to have found a fair few Dicks in my time recently! But I will be ready for my match, when he appears, and we will walk off into the sunset together, slowly but surely.

Age is a problem

I hadnt planned on writing this as my next blog but a moment ago a guy just gave me all the proof I needed.

As much as most people love the idea of a toy boy the reality falls far too short. I get a fair amount of interest from young men in their twenties. Which yes can give the ego a bit of a boost. But the majority of these "men children" have no idea how to talk to a real woman. They think by talking dirty and telling you how much of a sex maniac they are it guarantees them a date. Okay there are a few women out there who are frustrated and would happily take these boys to bed. But my profile clearly states Im not interested in eating them alive ! The best way to show you an example of what I have to put up with is below. This is the actual transcript of what this 25 year old sent- from his initial contact :

Bigbeads87 says:

Hello xx

Your not 38 xx

bon

Hiya Im good hows you?

I am 38 I promise!

Bigbeads87 says:

Wow u look great I thought u was 28 tops. How r u anyway? X

bon

Im a tad bit older than you!lol! Im ok thanks. Home from work so thats always a bonus

Bigbeads87 says:

Monday over and done with lol. Age just a number. U been single long? Xx

bon

2 years! seems far too long to me

Bigbeads87 says:

snap. So met anyone of here before? X

bon

met one guy, from this site anyway. I usually use another one, but getting bored with that one.

How about you?

Bigbeads87 says:

What the other one? I only been on here a,few days.... Xx

bonbno74 says:

Yes the other Site.

is 25 young for u.....  x

bon:

maybe a tad too young, when I have a daughter who is 14!

Bigbeads87 says:

can we forget the ages..... X

bon:

we can for now. but it may come back to haunt you!

Bigbeads87 says:

What u mean? ....  x

bon:

well we can chat but somewher down the line I think it will play a part

Bigbeads87 says:

Well depends if u like to f**ked hard and deep  x

bon says:

and with that you just ruined any chance of getting the best f**k of your life so to speak!

Bigbeads87 says:

Really u didn't seemed to keen lol. What do u do for work? X

bon says:

look Im not looking for a f@@k buddy and feel pretty dam insulted that within 3 messages thats what you came out with. YOU just showed yourself up to be a young imature boy. Now I suggest you go find someone on your level, or learn how to speak to ladies properly

Bigbeads87 says:

Cheer up

Xx

bon:

Hun Im more than smiley.

Bigbeads87 says:

Good . Im bad 

bon:

believe me Im the queen at being bad- but I dont expect to be treated like a walking vagina

Bigbeads87 says:

Cool. So what do u hate doing? Xx

bon

Im sorry but I dont see the point of carrying this conversation on anymore

Bigbeads87 says:

well do u want to meet up? X

bon

with a man not a boy sorry

He just didn't get the hint did he?! After that he still carried on and gave me his number, told me his real name and told me to contact him if I wanted a good seeing to or any electrical work done!

Give me strength!