I'm back !

Yes folks I'm back ! Sorry for the long delay in service. Its for two reasons. One, I started to feel like I was using this more to self analyse my life rather than it being about actual dates , and two, I did for a while start seeing someone. And as we know I then start to think its leading somewhere and then boom it falls out of the sky and I'm firmly back on the ground again rather than being on cloud nine. !
 Not that I'm sad and lonely or depressed about being single or hearing the Queen song going round in my head "another one bites the dust". To be honest I think I have had a lucky escape. Either I am far too analytical of people and their actions or this guy really did show his true colours underneath the peacock feathers.
As usual everything started very well. Dates out, giggles laughs , open communication lines. All the right noises being heard and smiles appearing. Then over time cracks started to appear in his stories. I never judge people by their financial situation. As long as you are holding your on who cares if you live in a castle or a bedsit. I rent my home so I never judge others on their living arrangements.  But this guy seemed to think he was above everyone else. Scoffed at people who in his words "had nothing- do you know they don't even own any property ". This guy in the beginning said he owned two properties, both that were being sold so he could have a fresh start. But within a short amount of time his empire suddenly crumbled. One house was given back to the bank as he claimed he would not have any profit due to it being his second property and having to pay capital gains tax. Then the second property was being repossessed by the bank. Even when he said he had sold the property he claimed the bank were taking him to court to repossess. Now I know these things can happen, but you have to be behind in your payments to get to this point. So maybe instead of taking me to view brand new cars and custom made bicycles he was looking at buying, he should of been concentrating on his predicament. One minute his mum was lending him the money for a new car (because a used Ford focus is a complete come down from driving a convertible Audi don't you know), the next shes had a car crash and cant lend him the money to clear the arrears as she needs a new car (isn't that what car insurance is for?)   I wont even start on the expensive motorbikes he claimed he owned and rode regularly with his dad (never in the three months I knew him) , or the problems he had with his tenants ( including not drying up their washing up and just leaving it on the draining board. I'm going to have to have another word with them.) or his obsessive need to write reviews on every place we went to in a very critical manner.
Suddenly in the midst of this drama he backs off and stops contact. He deletes his Facebook profile (fed up of seeing everyone else happy apparently.) and eventually claims he needed time out. So when we eventually talk I explain the two biggest pet hates of mine. Being cut off and being lied to. Does he listen ? NO ! No further contact for three more days until he says hes sold the flat again, and at no point asks how I am (even though I was awaiting some hospital results myself- that's another story- didn't even offer to go to my previous appointment with me !). Then nothing more. I gave up caring at that point. It suddenly became clear he was a self centered egotistical condescending idiot. How dare he comment on my parenting skills when he doesn't even see his own child, or complain I don't own sharp enough kitchen knives (ex chef apparently)

Blimey - I have just realised I have only just touched the surface with his stories ! Maybe they were all true. But at the end of the day I don't need or want to be judged by someone constantly who appears to claim god like status above us mere mortals.   So its back to the drawing board. begin the search again, although I'm starting to loose the will to live over it all ! More new clothes to buy for new dates, the highs and lows of spending time texting and then meeting up for it to not go anywhere. All the strange people and requests you get sent, the knack of trying to sell yourself without coming across as boring, the fear of the question "what do you do in your spare time" when you realise the answer is nothing ! I don't have interesting hobbies- I don't sky dive, or go urban climbing, or ride a motorbike, or even go to the gym! My life consists of work, dog walking, teenage daughter moanings, housework, reading and sofa surfing! What a catch I am !
Never fear though, at least I have you guys along for the ride to keep me company !

Footnote- need to buy a new laptop !mine is older than me and won't load any pictures to the blog sorry!

Oh yeah that's not me in my profile picture

So I find myself on line and I spot a nice looking chap. Lives fairly local, drives, single, no children, employed. All main boxes ticked. So I send him a message and we get talking.

From the start his messages are a bit off .As in they don't completely make sense or seem very over the top. Maybe its me, maybe I read far too much into peoples messages or texts.
Hi ya , it sure is a pleasure to meet a beautiful young mother here on this site whom I am attracted to. I love what i saw and read all about you. I am interested in knowing everything and hopefully meeting in person for a quiet drink and a long chat see if we can start a mew love story. You look really lovely with a wonderful smile. can I ask how many children you have? Do you drive? Please..... I am **** how nice to meet you xx

So aside from the small spelling error (forgivable) I found it a bit strange. Then the next message told me how he enjoyed being a Scout leader and then which street he lived on and his mobile number!
I was taken aback. I started to wonder if he was a bit unworldly if you know what I mean. But I continued to chat to him and eventually text him to make it simpler.
Then he sends me 3 photos of himself. I'm pleased to say not of his anatomy ! But it was becoming obvious from the photos that he looked completely different to his one profile photo (I know I broke my rule- 2 photos or no talky!)
So I asked the question:
"You look different in those photos to your profile?"
"Yes, that's because the site would not load me. So I used my twin brothers picture to get me started"

TWIN BROTHER!!?? 

So I checked "So your profile picture isn't you?"
" Its my brother **** as we are twins who is to notice the difference in us? If this bothers you and makes you want to go find someone else to talk to be my guest, its a free country"

I was gobbed smacked.  Okay so you shouldn't judge a book by its cover, but come on! I have twin brothers, I went to school with a set of twins, my ex mother in law is a twin! They are each different to the other and there is no way my brothers would try and use each others photos as themselves (well I hope they wouldn't!). Maybe I will post a photo of my mother and say this is what I may look like in 25-30 Years time, or one of my daughter - actually no that's a bad idea ! The net is full of wrong uns already without encouraging them!

So no, I will not be talking to this lookalike again. If he can't be honest straight off he is not worth the future lies!

Age is a problem

I hadnt planned on writing this as my next blog but a moment ago a guy just gave me all the proof I needed.

As much as most people love the idea of a toy boy the reality falls far too short. I get a fair amount of interest from young men in their twenties. Which yes can give the ego a bit of a boost. But the majority of these "men children" have no idea how to talk to a real woman. They think by talking dirty and telling you how much of a sex maniac they are it guarantees them a date. Okay there are a few women out there who are frustrated and would happily take these boys to bed. But my profile clearly states Im not interested in eating them alive ! The best way to show you an example of what I have to put up with is below. This is the actual transcript of what this 25 year old sent- from his initial contact :

Bigbeads87 says:

Hello xx

Your not 38 xx

bon

Hiya Im good hows you?

I am 38 I promise!

Bigbeads87 says:

Wow u look great I thought u was 28 tops. How r u anyway? X

bon

Im a tad bit older than you!lol! Im ok thanks. Home from work so thats always a bonus

Bigbeads87 says:

Monday over and done with lol. Age just a number. U been single long? Xx

bon

2 years! seems far too long to me

Bigbeads87 says:

snap. So met anyone of here before? X

bon

met one guy, from this site anyway. I usually use another one, but getting bored with that one.

How about you?

Bigbeads87 says:

What the other one? I only been on here a,few days.... Xx

bonbno74 says:

Yes the other Site.

is 25 young for u.....  x

bon:

maybe a tad too young, when I have a daughter who is 14!

Bigbeads87 says:

can we forget the ages..... X

bon:

we can for now. but it may come back to haunt you!

Bigbeads87 says:

What u mean? ....  x

bon:

well we can chat but somewher down the line I think it will play a part

Bigbeads87 says:

Well depends if u like to f**ked hard and deep  x

bon says:

and with that you just ruined any chance of getting the best f**k of your life so to speak!

Bigbeads87 says:

Really u didn't seemed to keen lol. What do u do for work? X

bon says:

look Im not looking for a f@@k buddy and feel pretty dam insulted that within 3 messages thats what you came out with. YOU just showed yourself up to be a young imature boy. Now I suggest you go find someone on your level, or learn how to speak to ladies properly

Bigbeads87 says:

Cheer up

Xx

bon:

Hun Im more than smiley.

Bigbeads87 says:

Good . Im bad 

bon:

believe me Im the queen at being bad- but I dont expect to be treated like a walking vagina

Bigbeads87 says:

Cool. So what do u hate doing? Xx

bon

Im sorry but I dont see the point of carrying this conversation on anymore

Bigbeads87 says:

well do u want to meet up? X

bon

with a man not a boy sorry

He just didn't get the hint did he?! After that he still carried on and gave me his number, told me his real name and told me to contact him if I wanted a good seeing to or any electrical work done!

Give me strength!